Are you a perfectionist? Do you find that perfectionism helps you or hinders you? How can you transform your relationship with perfectionism?
In this podcast episode, Lisa Lewis revisits the discussion about honoring your perfectionism as a highly sensitive person.
IN THIS PODCAST:
- Perfectionism in highly sensitive people
- Qualities of perfectionism
- How to transform your relationship with perfectionism
Perfectionism in highly sensitive people
Many HSPs deal with perfectionism. They can experience it both positively and negatively.
Some HSPs can become perfectionists due to family conditioning, or can be perfectionists because that could be part of their personality.
[As an HSP] if you can’t get rid of [perfectionism] then learn to live with it by [having] a different relationship with it so that it doesn’t run your mind and your life.
Lisa Lewis
Qualities of perfectionism
- Many perfectionists are high achievers, but they can also live as a result with high anxiety
- Perfectionism can help you to be structured, organized, and detail-oriented
- People who are perfectionists often get the job done and get it done early
- Perfectionists say what they mean and do what they say
These are the people who other people seek out for advice … but perfectionists can pay a high price for giving too much of themselves.
Lisa Lewis
Even though these qualities are positive, they can become heavy burdens to carry throughout life, and can therefore become negative and detrimental.
Perfectionists sometimes feel like their worth is dependent on what they achieve, and fear failure to such an extent that they become highly anxious and nervous.
How to transform your relationship with perfectionism
Highly sensitive people can learn how to:
- Balance their time and energy
- Balance and be realistic about their priorities
- Manage how much of themselves they give to projects and people
Try these affirmations to help you believe that you can set the necessary boundaries around your time and energy:
- I am enough
- I am worthy as I am
- I am flexible
- I can ask for help
- It is okay for me to make a mistake
- I am perfect just the way I am
We want to acknowledge and accept the hardship because it won’t be there for the rest of our lives, so you want to turn towards it and face it instead of turning away and not looking at it. You will [then] have a different relationship with yourself, and it will feel better and easier.
Lisa Lewis
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So you’ve been told that you’re “too sensitive” and perhaps you replay situations in your head. Wondering if you said something wrong? You’re like a sponge, taking in every word, reading all situations. Internalizing different energies, but you’re not sure what to do with all of this information. You’re also not the only one asking yourself, “am I ok?” Lisa Lewis is here to tell you, “It’s totally ok to feel this way.”
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Society, and possibly your own experiences, may have turned your thinking of yourself as being a highly sensitive person into something negative. Yet, in reality, it is something that you can – and should – take ownership of. It’s the sixth sense to fully embrace, which you can harness to make positive changes in your life and in the lives of others.
This may all sound somewhat abstract, but on the Am I Ok? Podcast, Lisa shares practical tips and advice you can easily apply to your own life. Lisa has worked with adults from various backgrounds and different kinds of empaths, and she’s excited to help you better connect with yourself. Are you ready to start your journey?